Whose Golden Rule?

I read an article called "Be Humble Learn Another Language" by Jon P. Kirby SVD. Part of the thesis was that Loving your neighbor as you love yourself has been the paradigm for the church in mission in recent years. The Golden Rule...The problem is that in crossing cultures, whose cultural basis for love will we use? Normally we love others as ourselves from a monocultural perspective. For instance Americans on the fourth of July love apple pie and ice cream and hot dogs on the grill. So when we want to love an African as ourself we might give him that same apple pie when all the while they would prefer fufu or red red.

Jesus did not even seem to subscribe to the Golden Rule. Paul summarizes Christ's attitude in Philipians 2. He humbled himself and became like us taking on human nature, not considering equality with God something to be grasped though he was in very nature God. Before writing this, Paul precludes the whole thing, by saying, "You should consider others better than yourselves. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus." So it is not love your neighbor as yourself. Christ's model is what he did for us. He loved us better than he loved himself and became obedient even to death on a cross! Be humble love your neighbor better than yourself. Why not learn his language? It is better than your own.